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Valentine’s Day has a way of making you feel like the world is divided into two neat groups: couples holding hands across candlelit tables and… the rest of us, scrolling past it all. If you’re single, the day can sting—been there, not fun. But here’s something I’ve learned the hard way: being single on Valentine’s can actually feel pretty damn liberating when you stop looking at it as “missing out” and start treating it as an excuse to spoil yourself silly.
Easier said than done, I know. But the truth is, self-pity never made anyone feel better. Shifting the frame helps—this isn’t a reminder of what you don’t have, it’s a chance to double down on the love you can give yourself. Think of it like giving yourself the same kindness you’d give to a friend.
This isn’t about toxic positivity—it’s about grounding. Jot down a few things you’ve achieved, the people who show up for you, or even the simple stuff (like “my coffee didn’t spill this morning”). Gratitude has been shown to literally rewire your brain chemistry toward optimism.
Valentine’s feeds can feel like an assault course. Perfect roses, gushy captions, over-filtered date night photos. If it makes you feel smaller, close the app. You’re not missing anything—trust me.
Forget the roses—give yourself glow. Do a long bath, a face mask, or better yet, book a treatment. And if dragging yourself to a crowded salon feels exhausting, there’s The Monsha’s salon-at-home. Our facials and body massages are honestly a lifesaver—pampering without leaving your sofa.
Queue up your comfort films (mine are equal parts rom-coms and horror, don’t judge) and pair them with guilty-pleasure food. Sometimes love looks like not sharing your fries.
Call your other single pals and turn it into a Galentine’s or Palentine’s. Order in, play ridiculous games, laugh too loudly. Studies even show social connection boosts oxytocin—the bonding hormone—so technically, this is self-care science.
Pottery class? Dance workshop? Even just trying to bake bread without setting off your smoke alarm. Novelty boosts dopamine—the same chemical that makes romance exciting—so you basically trick your brain into feeling lit up.
Take yourself on a date. A new café, a day trip, even a long walk somewhere you don’t usually go. Changing scenery does wonders for your mood.
Write, paint, scrapbook, make a playlist. No, it doesn’t have to be good. It just has to be yours. Creating something helps calm stress hormones and gives you a keepsake from the day.
Do something kind for someone else—volunteer, donate, or just help a friend. Acts of kindness trigger endorphins and give the day a sense of meaning that goes way deeper than heart-shaped candy.
If you’re craving company, it doesn’t have to be intense.
Being single on Valentine’s isn’t a tragedy—it’s freedom. Freedom to do what you actually want, whether that’s pampering yourself, hanging with friends, or staying in bed with takeout and Netflix. Love doesn’t have to be roses and candlelight—it can be you, comfortable, glowing, and at peace.
So light that candle, order the pizza, book the facial if you want it. The longest relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself—might as well make it a good one. 🌹✨